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Sunday, February 27, 2005

my paragraph of fame

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FEMALE BOSSES:
Wonder women... or wicked witches?

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Are female bosses temperamental, petty and demanding? Or are they more meticulous and caring than male bosses? LifeStyle investigates

By Mak Mun San


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WOMEN make bad bosses. They are temperamental. They take things too personally. They nit-pick, are petty and demanding.

On the plus side, though, they may be more meticulous and caring than men.

That, at least, is the image that emerges from a Straits Times Interactive (STI) poll on women bosses conducted from last Wednesday to Friday.

Sixty-two per cent of the 860 respondents said they preferred to work under male bosses, while only 19 per cent plumped for female bosses.

The remaining 19 per cent had no preference.

While 50 per cent agreed that female bosses were more temperamental, only 15 per cent felt they were more capable than male bosses.

Separately, LifeStyle also interviewed 50 male and female workers aged between 20 and 60 on their views of women versus men bosses.

The results largely mirrored those of the STI poll, with more than half - and comprising an equal mix of both males and females - saying men make better bosses.

Reasons given in favour of male bosses include how they are fair, decisive, professional and less inclined to be affected by their own emotions.

Said lawyer Lorraine Sim, 30: 'Female bosses are usually more sensitive and hold grudges for a longer time.'

Account manager Teddy Foo, 40, added: 'Men are generally more flexible and focused on the larger picture, while women managers can be overly obsessed with details.'

To be fair, women bosses did get their share of positive comments.

Respondents agreed that females generally have better interpersonal skills.

'Women tend to be more people-oriented, while guys are more task-oriented. They won't ask you: 'What's wrong?' ' said Ms Carol Teo, 32, a corporate services manager.

The issue of how well women bosses perform came under the limelight recently following the ouster of former Hewlett-Packard chief executive Carly Fiorina.

Although the unhappy merger with Compaq and patchy profit records have been cited by industry watchers as the main causes of her downfall, Ms Fiorina's detractors have also slammed her autocratic and risk-taking style.

Mr Roger Kay, an analyst at IT advisory firm IDC, told Reuters: 'I gave Carly extra points for being a woman. The community looked harshly at her because of that. She was in the spotlight the entire time and everyone was watching what she did.'

Ironically, Ms Fiorina - who was only one of eight women running a Fortune 500 company in the United States - was also known to motivate her staff with human touches such as get-well cards and thank-you notes.

Which raises the question: Are women really bosses from hell?

Human resource experts interviewed were quick to dismiss this perception, which they said stems from a 'career sexism' attitude.

'No self-respecting person with a brain on the right side will ever want to say that their women bosses are bitches,' said Mr David Leong, managing director of HR company PeopleWorldwide Consulting.

He said the negative stereotypes of women bosses as being emotional, fussy and incompetent are probably a result of men feeling increasingly threatened by their female counterparts.

'They ascribe such connotations to assert their authority since they are losing their tenuous hold on what limited power they have,' said Mr Leong.

Gender bender

IN SINGAPORE, women make up about 45 per cent of the workforce of 2.18 million people. Although no data is available, experts estimate that female managers make up about 25 to 30 per cent of the total figure.

If this year's International Management Action Awards (IMAA) are anything to go by - all four winners are men - local women managers still have some way to go in proving their worth in the higher echelons of the corporate world.

The award, which recognises innovative and exceptional management skills, is organised by the Chartered Management Institute Singapore and Spring Singapore.

Only five out of 20 winners in the past five years were women, including SembCorp Environmental Management president and CEO Loh Wai Kiew, Hyflux CEO and president Olivia Lum and managing director of United Parcel Services Singapore Mary Yeo.

Mr Kamal Kant, who runs career and training consultancy Next Transition, said that to date, no study has found that women are less suited to managerial careers than men.

'It is the personality, upbringing and life experiences that determine whether a boss is rational and realistic or ruthless and rough in his approach.'

Ms Ho Geok Choo, president of the Singapore Human Resource Institute, conceded that female bosses 'inevitably work very hard and are demanding because we are in the male domain'.

'But at the end of the day, the leadership qualities, and not the gender, of a boss are what really matters,' said Ms Ho, who is also vice-president of human resources at Singapore Airlines Engineering and a Member of Parliament for West Coast GRC.

The STI poll result concurs with the experts' views on this. Gender aside, 75 per cent of respondents picked 'ability on the job' as a major factor in assessing their bosses.

'As long as the person is capable and competent, it doesn't matter if he is male or female,' said marketing executive Eileen Wang, 30.



DARLINGS & DESPOTS

Stereotypes - both good and bad - abound when it comes to women bosses. YVONNE KOH and MAK MUN SAN ask the experts how true these really are

The Mother Hen

Typical traits: Maternal and nurturing, treats her subordinates as she would her own children, willing to condone shortcomings as long as they do not affect her own position. Loves to share food and creates a family-like office environment.

Likely to say: 'Let's eat first and talk later.'

Real-life story: Ms Nancy Cheong, 44, a copywriter: 'My ex-boss was a really caring woman. She had a kind word for everyone, even the worst performer in the department. However, a colleague took advantage of that and skived a lot. The boss took no action as he still delivered good work intermittently. But many of us became frustrated with her and it affected office morale.'

Expert's view: Mr David Ang, executive director of the Singapore Human Resource Institute, says that women are more empathetic. 'But if a female boss is too caring towards a poor performer, she might finally lose her patience. When that happens, she will appear like a bitch.'



The Micro-Manager

Typical traits: Demanding and fastidious, constantly on your back to hand in your projects on time, wants everything done her way, even keeps an eye on usage of company stationery.

Likely to say: 'Why didn't you recycle the paper?'

Real life story: Ms Janine Lim, 31, director of marketing, gives a micro-manager's side of the story: 'I have this employee who writes e-mail to prospective clients. Despite repeatedly highlighting his grammatical and font errors, he still commits them. Now, I have to vet his e-mail before it goes out. When I point out a missing full-stop, he asks: 'Where?' It really tries my patience.'

Expert's views: Experts say there is no hard evidence to support the theory that women bosses tend to nit-pick. Mr Paul Heng, managing director and principal consultant of career consultancy firm NeXT Career Consulting, adds: 'I micro-manage myself. People are what they are because of their life experiences.'



The Blinkered Boss

Typical traits: Likely to dwell on small issues and miss out on the big picture, not willing to take a gamble, prefers tried-and-tested solutions.

Likely to say: 'Are you sure this will work?'

Real-life story: Ms Jenny Chan, 24, a marketing executive: 'I worked for a female boss who fussed over small details. I was compiling quotations from suppliers to generate a purchase order (PO). Their English wasn't good, so there were a lot of spelling errors. I corrected the mistakes and standardised the PO's format. But my boss was unhappy, asking why I didn't follow the quotations. I had to change everything back, inconsistencies and all.'

Expert's views: Mr Andre Cheong, regional director of the PSD Group (Asia Pacific), an international executive search organisation, says: 'Women do tend to dwell more on details but that doesn't mean they lose sight of the big picture. Through training, they can take on strategic roles in developing the business.'



The High-flyer

Typical traits: Smart, efficient, popular, possesses both high IQ and EQ, a slave driver who knows when to loosen her grip to allow her subordinates space to breathe, sets high standards for herself and her team, does not suffer fools gladly.

Likely to say: 'Sorry for pushing you, but I know you can do the report by 5pm, right?'

Real-life story: Mr Desmond Quek, 33, an IT manager, says: 'I worked for a woman who was almost a dream boss. She led by example by working hard, but also knew how to encourage fun in the office when we were not chasing deadlines. But, as with all high-flyers, she was also a 'yes' woman. She rarely contradicted her boss, no matter how unreasonable the demands were.'

Expert's view:Ms Christine Sim, managing director of HR company Tact Business Services, says there is a difference between a self-employed boss and one who is a paid employee. 'Women entrepreneurs have sales targets to fulfill and can get nasty. It's easier for female bosses who are paid to manage other people to be nice.'



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Friday, February 25, 2005

generation Z?

I belong to the Generation Y. My name is Jenny. Look at what names my peers have:

Alex
Angeline
Christopher
Clarice
Daniel
David
Donald
Dorothy
Esther
Eunice
Evelyn
Faith
Gabriel
Issac
Joann
Joel
John
Joseph
Joshua
Leroy
Louis
Mary
Melissa
Matthew
Martin
Michael
Rachel
Richard
Samuel
Shawn
Sonia
Stefanie
Victoria
Tristan

I prophesy...Generation Z will be the most connected, anointed generation that will ever walked this planet. Check out how Generation X parents are naming their Generation Z babies:

Abby
Aidan
Alisha
Althea
Anwen
Asher
Austin
Calen
Chloe
Danzel
Dazzle
Elena
Ephraim
Ethan
Ezekiel
Gideon
Heidi
Ivory
Jadalyn
Jarell
Jasher
Jayden
Jazreel
Jephthah
Jirehx
Joash
Jose
Kaize
Karis
Kyan
Madison
Merrilyn
Monehin
Mzila
Nathan
Oriayo
Stead
Rayner
Vania
Wes
Zachary
Zecharis
Zeke
Zeph
Zoa

Exotic or what?

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Wednesday, February 23, 2005

the simple life

Yesh, that reality show with Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie. The hook of The Simple Life is irresistible: 2 wealthy, pampered bitches go from upper-crust Los Angeles to an Arkansas farm to prove that they can survive without their cell phones and credit cards (like real). Seeing a hotel heiress and the daughter of a pop star clash big-time with people who pluck chickens and milk cows, I can't help but raise my eyebrows in disbelief. They try to work a series of jobs at a dairy farm, at a fast-food joint, at a livestock auction, but they possess not a jot of work ethics. Most of the time, I watch the show in fascinated horror. It's like watching alien beings trying to masquerade as people.

The idea here, as sold by FOX TV was "from filthy rich to just plain filthy". So apt! I suppose local television could come up with a local show for these two worthless (opposite pun intended) human beings to parade before the camera. Hopefully there are plans for a Singaporean sequel to "The Simple Life". It would be great to see these two airheads interact with the locals. They could name it "The 21st-century Freak Show" and it will achieve the highest ratings than David Copperfield and David Blaine's magic put together.

Imagine, Paris & Nicole sent to stay in a (gasp!) pigeon-hole HDB flat and (shock!) study in a uniformed secondary school!

Imagine, Paris & Nicole attempting our Singlish or Hokkien voice acrobatics (“That was very the horrigible to be kena stuck in de CTE jam, lah.”)

Imagine, Paris & Nicole being picked up by some Ah Beng while pubbing at Md Sultan Road ("Wah seh! Ai swee! wheet wheet! An chua so dao? I'm not a buaya, dun worry, i'm just velli handsome! Ai mai sit aw buay in my Lancer?!”

Imagine, Paris & Nicole being forced to sing ‘Majulah Singapura’ during flag-raising ceremony in school assembly. We can’t wait to see if the principal will stand at attention or fidget like mad when they do so.

You know, it is almost too easy to make fun of these two... Mr and Mrs Hiltons and Ritchies, you've done a miserable job of bringing up these two young women, even though most of the show is clearly staged, we know and we know that these are exactly what they will commit unashamedly in real life anyway, except it would be quite boring and unimaginative in real life, without the story editors writing the script for them.

Well, the show's obviously not educational. Don't expect to be enlightened intellectually. The only vaguely useful purpose this show serves is entertainment and zilch, nothing else.

Let ME now try to talk about my version of a simple life. A simple life to me is...like the contents of this book - Frugal Living For Dummies: How to Cook for a Day and Eat for a Month.

Okay, I'm kidding! I'm already skinny enough as it is.

Many simplicity gurus urge us to become "tightwads" as the true path to a simple life. But simplicity and frugality are not the same thing.

To be specific, frugality is a vehicle for achieving simplicity, but the driving force is a vision, a philosophy, a purpose.

Knowing your purpose in life simplifies your life. It defines what you do and what you don't do. Your purpose becomes the standard you use to evaluate which activities are essential and which aren't. My takings from Rick Warren's The Purpose-Driven Life.

Really, a simple life to me saves my sanity more than anything else. Simplicity is about owning your own life. Simplicity is wanting less. This is not a a revolutionary discovery, but it will change lives. This revelation has enabled me to spend less time acquiring things and more time acquiring knowledge, insights, relationships, and experiences.

The experience of sipping aloe vera juice out of a cold can after being thirsty for 2 hours.
The experience of standing outside Gramophone and looking at all the colourful CD covers.
The experience of just strolling down Orchard Road with your favourite cutie boy.
The experience of begging the cinema counter guy to let us buy a ticket even though we were short of 10 cents.
The experience of laughing at silly jokes and playing silly games with a bunch of hyperactive friends.
The experience of peering through glass windows and admiring the product displays.
The experience of tearing in the midst of a touching movie, a touching novel, a touching story.
The experience of falling prostrate and being slain in the powerful prescence of the holy spirit.

For some reason, it seems to me that many people have failed to grasp the preciousness of this simplicity. They trudge off to work every morning to put in their time at jobs they despise so they can buy things. Have you noticed? The more a person hates his or her job, the more money he or she spends on toys, gadgets, cars, clothes, jewellery, etc. And the more one spends, the more one needs to hang on to that job, no matter what.

Is there a way out? I think so. How? Simplify!!!

You’ll be surprised to discover how much you can do without and still have more than enough yummy food to eat, stylish clothes to wear, a comfortable home to stay in - and time to do the things you really want to do, the time to be with the people you really want to be with. I did.

*smile*

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Tuesday, February 22, 2005

my love tank

5 ways to fill up my love tank:

acts of service
quality time
physical touch
words of affirmation
giving gifts

Yes, in this order, people.

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Monday, February 21, 2005

BGR musings

It's amazing how a 18-year old can possess the charm and chivalry of a 28-year old. What's more, from my direct experience, even some 38-year-olds fail miserably in the charismatic department. I am not exaggerating... I tell you, this boy - all of his 18 years of delicate manners and boyish charm will put all other human beings who call themselves 'men' to shame. Now all you peodophiles, don't you ever think in that direction! And no, i will not tell you his name even if i am drunk ;P

Which i happen to think that this is a fiasco cos this guy is obviously Mr Wrong right? I mean, my ex was 6 years older than me and now this fella is 6 years younger than me! Is this the wheel of fortune or bad karma? And why do keep getting reminded of Karen & Jernej...

But, I noticed something interesting:
6 years older = corruption
6 years younger = purity

Ask the slackers. They can testify to the corruption part.
Ask me. I can vouch for the purity part. Mebbe this is what they call a "shi nai sha shou".

2 members of the same species. 2 different characters. Hmmmmm. Is this the perils of post-modernization or the phenomenon of reverse evolution?

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Saturday, February 19, 2005

eat ur shoe, loser!

Sometimes i wonder and ponder over this rhetorical question: if i am declared non-existent in this world, or if i disappear into thin air suddenly, will anyone notice at all? i try my best to be harmonious, funny, caring, creative, inspiring to other human beans, but why do i feel i'm a praying mantis most of the time?

Forget about trying to impress. If someone says to me: "i bet you can't do [xxx], you loser! i'll eat my shoe if you can!"

I'll reply with angst: "WELL, PREPARE YOUR CHILLI SAUCE TO EAT UR SHOE!" See who's the real loser!

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Tuesday, February 08, 2005

reminiscences of my childhood

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Remember this colourful biscuit? It was one of my favourites when I was in primary school. I will munch on it, popping them into my mouth non-stop. The pastel colours of the sugar on top of the biscuit always fascinates me.

It seems just yesterday when I used to go to school with a humongous bag on my back and a water bottle in hand. Even though my childhood days have not been any glorious roll of drums, I now look back to it with a wishful longing...all the joys of childhood and adolescence that will never come again in life.

These are the years when we live in a world beyond all pretences and hypocrisy, these are the years when we actually learn how to grow, from a juvenile to a young, trustworthy human being.

Now that i've nearing a-quarter-of-a-century old, the colours of life have slowly change to a different shade, from the pastels on the biscuit to psychedelics in our mind.

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Wednesday, February 02, 2005

the worst pick-up line ever

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for the record

|jenny c| |singaporean|cantonese| |virgo|hetereosexual| |24august|telok blangah| |deer-lookalike|i'm a dear| |music & journalism| |desires to be serenaded| |abuses literary devices| |unwilling perfectionist| |clings on to idealism|
|goes for all or nothing|
|vehemently loyal in love|
|gives glory to God| horrorfreeze[at]gmail.com

guilty by association

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::andre::
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::luke::
::molly::
::nate::
::norbert::
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::shaun::
::vittachi::
::weichong::
::wesley::
::zyis::

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